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PARENTS / GRANDPARENTS / GUARDIANS / CARERS!
The Start of the Longest Term is Approaching.
It's time to start working on any questions you may have for your child(ren)'s Teacher.
My Post, 'Meeting the Teacher' gives you some ideas and suggestions to help you plan your questions. It's good
to make contact, making an appointment well in advance.
Be sure your children know you are
interested and want to hear all about their day in school,
the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly!
10 August 2018
Iseult Catherine O'Brien
Montessori Teacher & Supervisor | Volunteer Tutor with Second Level Students
A Member of The Tutors' Association
PARENTS, GRANDPARENTS, GUARDIANS, AND CARERS
It seems many parents, grandparents, guardians, and carers
are losing their confidence, especially in
Early Childhood Education
Nowadays, there are so many
acronyms, complicated names for each age and stage of learning and development, class descriptions, and convoluted terms used by pre-school and early school years education systems and practitioners, that some parents are feeling excluded from their own child's
/ children's education. They may be INTIMIDATED by too complicated, too scientific-sounding, unexplained, terminology and shorthand descriptions. Some parents even give up asking for explanations, as
they have lost confidence in their grasp of what is going on in their child's school.
A friend who works as a teacher with very young children, in New York, uses all kinds of shorthand descriptions and acronyms in emails to me when telling her news from work. I keep having to ask her what these names mean. I never know if it might be a description of a class age group, or a shorthand for a specific learning difficulty. She just forgets that not everyone knows all the terminology.
All professions have their shorthand usages, but in relation to education and educators, if they become the cause of parents, grandparents,
family, guardians, and carers feeling DISTANCED from their child(ren)'s teachers, feeling unable to have a discussion on their child(ren)'s
activities, A REVIEW IS NECESSARY.
Parents, grandparents, guardians, and carers (PGGCs) can come to feel that their role as the primary educators of their children is UNDERMINED by the idea that they are unable to be as involved with their children's education at home, to the extent they would wish.
They can come to distrust their ability to play comfortably and
naturally with their young children, fearing there is a 'proper procedure' for this play, about which they know nothing. PGGCs' confidence in their innate skills may be compromised by their belief they are inadequate, not able enough
to work 'correctly' with their young children.
This is soul-destroying for hopeful and dedicated parents, grandparents,
guardians, and carers.
No-one truly realises just how demanding, all-consuming, and plain scary, becoming a parent or carer is, until he or she becomes one. There is a seismic shift in a couples' priorities, as they grasp the
breadth of their new responsibilities, while marvelling at their tiny baby or young child.
Aside from the odd day, when any PGC may feel he or she just cannot do anything right, most parents / guardians / carers should be comfortable, most of the time, in the relationship they have with their babies and, later, in their relationships with their children as they get to pre-school, big school, and later stages.
The children and the PGCs MAY LOSE A HUGELY IMPORTANT OPPORTUNITY to get to know each other
fundamentally, through play and simple activities with household items, like saucepans and lids, cardboard boxes, kitchen roll tubes, plastic cups and plates, followed later by paper and chunky crayons.
Some things really are beautifully simple!
This time spent with children is when both come to make their connection, and
the PGCs start recognising small advancements in their children's skills, when committing time, every day, to
spend playing and learning with their children.
Play IS Learning!
You might be interested in reading the Post
by Matthew Simberg, Head of School at Montessori Seeds of Education. Matthew has a great way of making things easy to read and digest.
The Post is titled "An Understanding of the Communication and Collaboration Between
Parent and Teacher", and could not be more timely, it's about all Parent and Teacher Communication, not just at Montessori level.
IN THESE EARLY YEARS, children examine the faces of the important people in their lives. THEY READ THE EXPRESSIONS, AND ARE WIRED TO TRY TO PLEASE, and so be SHOWN AFFIRMATION AND LOVE.
THIS TIME NEVER COMES ROUND AGAIN. This is the time when a lifelong,
trusting, loving, bond is created.
Most parents, grandparents, family, guardians, and carers want to do a good job of caring for and
teaching their children, but some may feel lacking in what they think are necessary skills.
COLLECT kitchen paper rolls, clean egg cartons, washed plastic tubs from yoghurt ~ small and big, big wax crayons which
are moved from their cardboard box to a sturdy tub with a lid. These can be added to the blocks, Lego, and other construction material kept in a big box, any kind of box. This
is the child(ren)'s resources box, and they should be encouraged to play with it's contents after their snack when they come in from pre-school or school.
TELEVISION DOES NOT GET TURNED ON, AND GETS
TURNED OFF IF TURNED ON BY A CHILD OR OTHER PERSON!
(Please see my Post, Beware the Light!! which details up-to-date studies on the long-term deleterious consequences of over-use of blue light
emitting devices, including televisions, mobile / cell phones, iPads, Tablets, Kindles and all related devices).
When it is time for
this play to end, the children replace all the
material in the resources box. Renew the kitchen rolls and egg cartons, when they get really ragged but please ask first
if they are finished with them. (They may have become a vital monocular for searching the Heavens or a secret messages receptacle!)
to be confident, or fake it, and take the youngster(s) to the local park and let him or her have a go on all the material in the playground. You have to be brave, and smile, as
the child decides to cross the log bridge suspended from chains!
very young children are getting far less free play time, and they are spending far too long sitting at their tables in school. They are not getting enough exercise, especially boys. Children get
frustrated and cranky at having to sit still for hours at a time. They are not designed for it! Please see my Posts, 'Children's City Lives' and
'Nature in the City' for ideas on what you might do as a family, to
encourage physical activity and learning, and to introduce planning as a group for your weekend activities.
ALL CHILDREN NEED THREE HOURS DAILY OF FREE PLAY INCLUDING PLENTY OF RUNNING FOR THEIR PHYSICAL AND
Frequently, families do not get to have an evening meal together because of work commitments. One parent,
grandparent, guardian, or carer, could take it in turn to go for a walk when the child gets in from school or in the evenings. If you have a few children, try to make sure each one gets at least
one evening's walk.
This would be a great
opportunity for a child to off-load any worries of the day, and for the two of you to chat through the subject. Keep walking until you get to a solution which eases the child's worries.
He or she has to be confident that you are ready and happy to listen closely to a problem, and keen to help work it out.
If you get
in from work too late to go for a walk, make bath-time your chat time.
If your offspring are too old to be bathed, and tucked in, knocking on the bedroom door, and leaning on the door frame when 'come in' is shouted
out, making a relaxed comment about your own day and asking if anything's happening with your teenager, is a good habit. Follow up on a project undertaken,
or plans for a social outing.
Asking about exams or marks attained for an essay at bedtime is really NOT a good idea! You may get a "nope" 99% of the time, but he or she does know your are ready to listen when needed. The
day will come.
During the week, visits to the park or play outdoors may not be possible, but children NEED to
expend their build-up energy and any possible frustrations. They do not get sufficient exercise in school, and in some schools break-time or recess is being squeezed. Think of a physical and tiring game that could be played at home. How about moving the dining table against the wall, and making a slalom course of the chairs for the child(ren) to weave and run through? This
might be done best in bare feet, especially if you have downstairs neighbours!
SCHOOLS NEED TO BE MORE WELCOMING
Some parents, grandparents, guardians, and carers, being acutely aware of the lack of educational chances available
to them in their youth, but having made a success of their careers, can still feel INTIMIDATED by
just being in a school building. Equally, some people had really unpleasant school experiences, with memories that flashback in technicolour, and although a school gives them the jitters, they try very hard to hide their discomfort, as they want their children's
schooldays to be as rich and as enjoyable as possible.
I know that there is rarely a day in the school calendar that is not packed with the many and various activities. However, I think schools that do not already have one, really need to work out how they can introduce an Orientation Day for the parents, guardians, and carers of potential students.
Our families are how we have built them, and as long as the School knows the names and has photographs of involved and responsible adults in the lives of the child(ren), schools
are happy to accept whoever is nominated by the Parents or Guardians as involved and responsible adults.
HOW should it be done? Perhaps, a standard, introduction / junior infants / first elementary classroom ~ or whatever it is called where you are ~ should be left 'as is' on the day after the last day of the school year. It would be useful for the school to have prepared FAQ sheets which
they email or post to the parents, guardians, and carers, along with the time and date of their Orientation Day.
The FAQ sheets should be read through to and with the children before Orientation Day; the children may have questions the PGCs
would never think of! PGCs would come by arrangement, in groups, get to know each others, and spend an hour walking around the classroom, examining what they care to, and talking to a teacher / teachers, asking any
extra questions they may have, plus having a brief tour of the general facilities, all in the one hour time frame.
The PGCs will have seen where their children will sit, and will be more comfortable with the idea of their young children starting Montessori / kindergarten
/ pre-school / nursery school. They can sit at the evening meal, that day, and describe to the children the posters and drawings on the walls
of the classroom, and how close by is the lavatory. They can describe the bookshelves, the Nature Table, and the Science
Table. After the evening meal, the parents, guardians, or carers might try drawing a simple plan of the classroom, putting in tables, chairs, and
They could explain that every classroom is a little
different because each has a different teacher and different students. They could go on to talk about the various facilities they saw, and they could tell their children to ask them anytime, if they
have a question about the school.
An excited and enthusiastic parent, guardian or carer, describing a classroom, and all it contains, is a wonderful and very positive introduction for every child, to his or her future education!
Books and Other Materials
Schools need to be more
welcoming to parents, guardians, and carers ~ to give them opportunities by arrangement, directly before or after school hours, for example, to look through their child's class library, and borrow a few books to read with their child. A sign out / sign in again, system would be very simple to manage.
Once they discover together with their children which books are the favourites,
and the PGCs have the details of authors and illustrators, and names of the publishers which produce popular choices available to them, they will have confidence choosing books with and for their children, in the local Library or a bookshop. An
ever expanding shelf of books, is one of the greatest gifts PGCs can give their children. Going shopping together for books, having
to make a decision between a food treat and a book, helps children learn to value their books, and the time spent choosing and reading them with their PGCs.
Children should be brought to their local Library from their earliest days, and from around ten months onward as
participants, so that they grow up knowing about choice, and advice from librarians. They should always be along for the ride from earlier, to get used to seeing their PGCs engage
in discussing books, films, and any workshops that are planned by the Library staff. Library staff are a great resource for all PGCs,
from age suitable books, interesting suggestions, to information on child and parent yoga classes, readings by authors, cultural events coming up in the neighbourhood.
If this is a place where PGCs are obviously at ease, children will have no fear.
Available and Regular Communication
Schools need to recognise that
some PGCs just cannot take time off work during the working day, or need a good deal of notice, as they may have to take holiday leave, to attend meetings in the School. Equally, PGCs need to recognise the intrinsic importance of attending all P/T meetings,
for their children's sake, to learn how they can help their children in their work, and to build relationships with the children's teachers.
Emails from teachers to PGCs, and visa-versa, are a very useful
way to help PGCs stay in touch with their children's progress, especially when personal meetings are very difficult for the PGCs.
People get caught up in their own very busy working world, and all parties have to try to understand the realities for each other.
Easy to Understand
We all use shorthand in our workplace, and it is generally understood by everyone in the job. However, we would be unlikely
to use this same shorthand with clients, as we would not wish to embarrass them into asking what we mean, or have them not ask, which leads to a block in the clear communication flow between the parties.
In business, this is a scenario companies work hard to avoid, because
a clear understanding between supplier and client is crucial to the success of the partnership.
MAKE IT EASIER FOR PARENTS, GRANDPARENTS, GUARDIANS, AND CARERS TO UNDERSTAND
pre-schools and primary schools produce an annual Handbook for parents, guardians, and carers? Apart from expensive private schools, not many. Budgets are tight.
PGCs NEED TO KNOW the names given to each school year, from the introductory year upwards; approximately how many children are in each class; and the specific names
for their child's / children's developmental ages and stages.
PGCs need to know what would have been in The Handbook, which should include a good quality, comprehensive, glossary of
general educational terminology, the meanings of acronyms, and their full names, and a brief description, of fairly common conditions or learning difficulties children
in the school may have.
The dates and times of the Parent / Teacher meetings for each class, for the academic year, should be listed in the Handbook, including how long is allowed for the parents' / guardians' / carers'
session with their children's teacher(s).
Also included should be the School Rules, in full detail, plus the consequences of infringement for students, parents, guardians, carers, teachers, and all school employees, both permanent and temporary.
The Ethos of the School should be made clear to All.
MAKING IT EASIER TO HAVE A DISCUSSION
The School should list the names of the principal, school secretary, teachers of each class, plus all the Special Needs teachers, and all ancillary teaching
and other staff.
If PGCs wish to set up a meeting with a class teacher, for example, there should be email
addresses or, preferably, a contact point on the school's website, where messages could be left requesting a meeting with a named teacher, suggesting some convenient dates and times, details of the
topic to be discussed, plus contact information. The teacher can then get back with a date and time, and both parties can have a relaxed, prepared, meeting, where questions can be asked and answers given.
The school should also have a specific email address or, preferably, a section on its website, where parents can leave
a message informing the school that their child, in a named class, shall be absent the next day due to illness, or whatever reason. All contact details for the PGCs should be held by the school so that the message can be checked, if felt necessary.
This system would be efficient, as messages could be left late at night, and available first thing in the morning, thus avoiding a rush of telephone calls when the school opens. Teachers
can all check the emails or website to see if any of their students is listed.
Parents, guardians, and carers should feel free to ask advice on age and ability appropriate educational equipment for their child(ren). Some of the products on the market
are very expensive, and help with choosing the best quality, best value material, is a reasonable expectation.
WHEN PARENTS, GUARDIANS, CARERS, AND GRANDPARENTS ARE INVOLVED
When parents, guardians, carers, and grandparents feel part of their children's school life, as a result of proactive initiatives on the part of the school, EVERYONE
BENEFITS. 'Parents / Guardians / Carers / Grandparents' Evenings, including other family, dedicated to one school year at a time, preferably in a relevant classroom, where the family
members can wander around, examining the bookshelves, artwork produced by the children, posters on nature and astronomy, and other subjects the children are studying. The year teachers would come prepared to display a variety of materials, naming them,
and explaining their purposes and benefits. PGCs must feel free to examine the materials, ask
questions, and ask for advice on what they could do at home with their children, to complement the school's and teachers' work.
PGCs may feel diffident with teachers, while silently,
proudly, giving their children an educational start in life they had not enjoyed. PGCs and teachers need to believe that this is A
JOINT VENTURE, and for it to work best for the children, the relationship between the PGCs and teachers has to be open, professional, and enthusiastic.
INFORMED PGCs are more confident when playing and learning with their children. Teachers should have a list of useful books, pamphlets, or websites,
to give parents and carers back-up and support. I know of schools that cannot afford a website, and this is a great disadvantage to students and staff.
When teachers take the initiative, and invite PGCs to come to the school for information evenings, they become more engaged with the school, and become a support for the teachers of their children.
ENGAGED PGCs are much likelier to get involved in fundraising for the school, and may have some innovative ideas on how to attract funding or investment.
INVOLVED and enthusiastic PGCs are of enormous benefit to any school. They bring
many and varied skills, which can be used for the benefit of the current students, and as part of the long-term improvement in the educational options offered by the school.
Perhaps a PGC, with the appropriate skills, would design a top quality website for the school, being given lists of all the required elements from everyone working in the school, and suggestions from other parents and carers. Perhaps a PGC who works with a printing company, could help get a discount on publishing the school Handbook, and other material.
NO-ONE stays working as a teacher,
hoping to retire rich! If someone has been with a school for quite some time, he or she has invested more than school hours, plus preparation and correction time. He or she has
dreamt, imagined, and planned for improvements in the classrooms and in the school in general.
EQUALLY, most PGCs wish
for the best possible educational opportunities for their children, always bearing in mind their abilities and personalities. These are people who WANT to get involved, to
be asked to help, to offer any skills or crafts they have which would benefit the school.
PGCs or grandparents who are very knowledgeable gardeners, for example, would be a great asset from pre-school upwards, but perhaps
they do not realise what a resource they could be to the school!
In an atmosphere where the joint enterprise is central to the thinking of PGCs, family, and all school staff, GLORIOUS OUTCOMES ARE POSSIBLE!
IT IS ABOUT BEING INVOLVED. It
is not about signing a cheque, thinking 'that's all folks!'. Especially when times are tougher, the personal contribution of time and skills from parents, guardians, and carers, are
what make a school great!
Edited excerpts from
'Importance of Parental Involvement in a Child’s School and Education'
by Wan Suhana follow.
A great deal of research
has been written on the importance of parental involvement in education. The research overwhelmingly indicates that parents’ and grandparents' involvement not only positively affects a student’s achievement, it contributes
to higher quality education and better performance in schools overall. Yet, both schools and parents struggle with how to make this involvement happen.
One study conducted by the Southwest Educational Development Laboratory in 2002 analysed several
different pieces of existing research on parents’ involvement in education. Results of the Study which was released in a report titled “A New
Wave of Evidence”, found that students whose parents are actively involved in their education
are more likely to attend school regularly, adapt well to school, take advanced classes and excel academically. These students also tend to have better social skills and are more likely to graduate from high school and attend post-secondary school.
Being involved in the school and your child’s education
is just as important to the last year as it was at the beginning.
Both students and schools benefit when parents are involved in education. Academic achievement and standardised test results
are higher, students have a more positive attitude towards school and their behaviour is better. Other benefits include more successful academic programmes and schools are generally more effective.
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BENEFITS TO PARENTS
Parents benefit when they are involved in their child’s education. By involving themselves
at the school and community level, parents will:
- Interact with their children more and are thus more sensitive to their emotional
and intellectual needs;
- Have more confidence in their parenting abilities;
- Have a better understanding of the teacher’s role and the curriculum;
- Apply more positive reinforcements the more they understand about developmental stages;
- Are more likely to respond to teachers’ requests for help at home when they stay informed of
what their children are learning;
- Have higher opinions of and feel more committed
to their child’s schools;
- Become more active in policy-making at school and in the community.
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BENEFITS TO TEACHERS AND SCHOOLS
difficult jobs that are all too often taken for granted, but parent, grandparent, and family involvement helps ease their burden to some degree. When parents and grandparents get involved, they join forces with teachers to make a formidable educational team
characterised by mutual respect. Listed below are a few of the benefits to educators and schools when parents take an active role in their children’s education.
- Teachers and administrators experience higher morale and job satisfaction.
- Parents have more respect towards the teaching profession.
- Communication improves among educators, parents, and administrators.
- Communities have higher opinions of schools with involved parents.
- School programmes that involve parents perform
better and offer higher quality.
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in school benefits everyone. Teachers have a higher job-satisfaction rate, parents are better empowered to help their children become successful in learning, and students especially win,
as they make greater strides in education. As your child’s first teacher, they will continue to look up to you. Remember, that even having lunch at school with your child will seem special to him
or her, and shows how much you care. No matter how your schedule is, get involved in your child’s education and make a big difference in their life.
One of the best ways for parents to be involved in education is to communicate regularly
with teachers. Think of yourself as the teacher’s partner in managing your child’s education. Monitor your child’s homework and school projects, making them a top priority in his schedule. Another
way parents can be involved is to volunteer at the school. All kinds of opportunities exist, such as helping in the classroom, conducting fundraisers and assisting with extracurricular activities.
Involvement in school is continued at home. Helping with homework, providing
structured routines, giving positive affirmation, and encouraging independent learning gives a natural boost to academic success. Home-based involvement provides parents with the
opportunity to supplement instructions, reinforce and expound on classroom learning, and reward achievement.
Decades of Research Show ~
The most accurate predictor of a student’s achievement in school is not income or social status, but the extent to which the student’s family is able to:
(i) Create a home environment that encourages learning;
(ii) Communicate high, yet reasonable, expectations for their child’s achievement and future career;
(iii) Become involved in their children’s education at school and in the community.
* Student behaviours such as alcohol
use, violence, and anti-social behaviour decreases as parent involvement increases.
* Students are more likely to fall behind in academic performance if their parents do not participate
in school events, develop a working relationship with their child’s educators, or keep up with what is happening in their child’s school.
* The benefits of involving parents are not confined
to the early years; there are significant gains at all ages and grade levels.
* Middle and senior high school / secondary school students whose parents remain involved make better
transitions, maintain the quality of their work, and develop realistic plans for their future. Students whose parents are not involved, on the other hand, are more likely to drop out of school.
* When parents are involved, students achieve more, regardless of socio-economic status, ethnic / racial background, or the parents’ education level.
* When parents are involved in their child’s education,
they have higher grades and test scores, better attendance, and complete homework more consistently.
* When parents are involved, students exhibit more positive attitudes and behaviour, increased motivation and better self-esteem.
* Students whose parents are involved in their lives
have higher graduation rates and greater enrolment rates in post-secondary education.
* When parents are present at school and in the classroom, they tend to develop a better understanding of the curriculum
and are able to build relationships with teachers and school staff. These relationships help deepen mutual respect, and influence perceptions on the importance of education. Studies show that when parents are involved in school, attendance is higher, students
show more attention in the classroom, their test scores are higher, behaviour improves, and learning difficulties are identified sooner.
* Therefore, parents should always take part in their children education because their involvement plays an important role in children’s holistic development.
Grandparents, Family, Guardians, Carers, and Teachers ~
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